Last night, something happened that I hadn't imagined happening ever, in the last 3 years. I didn't start this with any set plan in place, let alone any plans at all. And as we went on, I started to realise that this is what I wanted to do. I originally involved other people, started calling … Continue reading The Aunties: the first meeting of the Board of Trustees
It is my extraordinary privilege to have curated a group of people, in the last three years, I call the Aunties. Some have been involved with my refuge work from the beginning, and some are recent arrivals. Irregardless, they are all beautiful souls and I appreciate them so much. Most are met via Twitter, some … Continue reading Aunties Speak
There has been much written about being a cis woman in this world. What that means, and what it feels like. I always think about this - about how men would cope if they had to live with the fear, the constant compromise, minimising of our circumstance and what happens to us. What would happen … Continue reading Being a woman
This is not my story. It belongs to a very brave woman. It is her story of one night in her life. It's extremely graphic and may trigger you, so please be careful of yourselves. "I was feeling pretty stressed. It was Summer holidays sure, but lately I had been so … Continue reading Trigger Warning: Taking power back.
For the last twenty years, I've been figuring out what abusive relationships look like. As a teacher dealing with families, as someone connected to a refuge and getting to know the women therein, and as a friend, and often an ear for women who have left these relationships or are still in the midst thereof. … Continue reading What domestic violence looks like.
There's an elephant in the room. Nobody talks about it and when they do, there's uncomfortable silence and uncertainty about what to do. Its a big old elephant - the subject of domestic violence in the relationships of people you know. i think, as a society, we are uncomfortable with the thought that intimate partner … Continue reading The elephant in the room