Hasn’t it been a year? So much has changed, and with that in mind, I’ve decided we’re going to do things a wee bit differently. Normally, we do pressies for Te Whānau Rangimariē – Yellow are kindly doing those this year, so we just have to focus on 33 families. And at their last whānau … Continue reading #AUNTIESXMAS2020

It's time to talk about visibility. For a long time I have known that one of the things we need to do in this country is to wake up and take notice. About a lot of things, but especially about domestic violence.   It’s incredibly difficult to tell your story of trauma and abuse, and … Continue reading Visibility

In the last few decades, NZ has built itself an underclass, and a poverty industry which entirely revolves around making sure the underclass stays where it is. There are countless charities and agencies which "work" with under resourced people, and most of them would be out of a job should the government and employers decide … Continue reading Imagine.

  *** This post has been edited to add a comment emailed to me by a reader. She wanted to point out that not all abusers have "tells" that other people would see. That comment - because this blog no longer accepts comments - has been added to the bottom of this post.     … Continue reading How To Spot The Pākeha Peril