*** This post has been edited to add a comment emailed to me by a reader. She wanted to point out that not all abusers have "tells" that other people would see. That comment - because this blog no longer accepts comments - has been added to the bottom of this post. … Continue reading How To Spot The Pākeha Peril
I've just been writing a letter of thanks to the benefactor who pays almost half my salary. Looking back to where we have been, looking at where we are, and looking ahead to where we want to go, I am minded that it is a love letter as much to all of you, as to … Continue reading Love letter to a donor. Love letter to you all.
I've always been somewhat ambivalent about Anzac Day. I've never pinpointed quite why - there could be so many reasons - but today as I watched others commemorate, pay their respects, stand solemnly at their letterboxes, I think I may have figured it out. Domestic violence - in particular violence towards women - has never … Continue reading Lest we forget.
I've talked about my marriage and my husband a lot since he died 16 months ago. My tongue loosened, the words came rushing out of my mouth and hit the air, exploding my truth, our truth, all around me. So many words. And so much feedback since from people who recognised their relationship in mine. … Continue reading Portraits of a marriage
If you’re struggling right now and you're in AKL.... Auckland Council Aucklanders unable to afford groceries or in self–isolation with no access to other support networks can call 0800 22 22 96 between 7am and 7pm, seven days a week. Callers must meet government criteria for assistance. 👉 Salvation Army 0800 53 00 00 Text your … Continue reading Where to get help with food in AKL right now. Food Banks and community services.
There is a lot of discussion recently, in lockdown, around police attending more family harm incidents, and a lot of people don't seem to know what this really is, so I thought I'd give it a crack. Because domestic violence is PART of family harm, as the police see it, but it is not what … Continue reading What is family harm?