It's time to talk about visibility. For a long time I have known that one of the things we need to do in this country is to wake up and take notice. About a lot of things, but especially about domestic violence. It’s incredibly difficult to tell your story of trauma and abuse, and … Continue reading Visibility
In the last few decades, NZ has built itself an underclass, and a poverty industry which entirely revolves around making sure the underclass stays where it is. There are countless charities and agencies which "work" with under resourced people, and most of them would be out of a job should the government and employers decide … Continue reading Imagine.
*** This post has been edited to add a comment emailed to me by a reader. She wanted to point out that not all abusers have "tells" that other people would see. That comment - because this blog no longer accepts comments - has been added to the bottom of this post. … Continue reading How To Spot The Pākeha Peril
I've just been writing a letter of thanks to the benefactor who pays almost half my salary. Looking back to where we have been, looking at where we are, and looking ahead to where we want to go, I am minded that it is a love letter as much to all of you, as to … Continue reading Love letter to a donor. Love letter to you all.
I've always been somewhat ambivalent about Anzac Day. I've never pinpointed quite why - there could be so many reasons - but today as I watched others commemorate, pay their respects, stand solemnly at their letterboxes, I think I may have figured it out. Domestic violence - in particular violence towards women - has never … Continue reading Lest we forget.
I've talked about my marriage and my husband a lot since he died 16 months ago. My tongue loosened, the words came rushing out of my mouth and hit the air, exploding my truth, our truth, all around me. So many words. And so much feedback since from people who recognised their relationship in mine. … Continue reading Portraits of a marriage